Rewriting History

I found an interesting blogpost on The Bitter Divorcée. I haven't read the whole blog, but I enjoyed reading this post.

So often in my domestic violence cases, the batterer simply rewrites history by denying the abuse. Rather than acknowledging the problem and making efforts to change, the abuser points the finger for the abuse at the victim. The victim is alleged to be either lying, crazy, or somehow deserving of the abuse.

Where there has been domestic violence, particularly where there has been serious incidents of violence, it is so important for attorneys to acknowledge and address the client's concerns about safety. Make sure that your attorney is familiar with your history and offers you the tools to address it. Work with your local domestic violence agency to make a safety plan as well.